Feedbacks, turning negatives into positives

Say You’ve just recently received a negative complaint about something at work, and this has left you doubting yourself and your abilities. The truth is, we all need feedback to grow but sometimes we have trouble converting that negative, into a positive. We get it, It’s easy to get overwhelmed by these negative emotions but it doesn’t always have to be that way. It all comes down to your mindset, and changing perspectives in this instance will be highly effective in generating a positive outcome. Below we suggest five ways you are able to turn negative feedback into a positive one.


5 ways that you are able to turn a negative feedback into a positive one


1. Take responsibility for your performance

 When it comes to these situations, it’s easy to put the blame on someone or something else for your shortcomings. However, acknowledging that you are at fault and taking accountability gives you more control on how you are able to make changes. Or you may react more harshly and criticize yourself for not performing to a level of standard. In this instance, it’s important that you forgive yourself and focus on holding yourself accountable to deliver higher results. Resulting to either options is unhealthy for your mental health and will result into no real changes. However, Realising that this feedback is a problem that only you can solve, is the first step in this process of turning negatives into positives.


2. Listen to understand

Although it can be quite confronting when someone like your employer gives you negative feedback, try to view it as them wanting the best for you. And for you to be at your best, there is always room for improvement. Remember that you are not the only one that needs improvement, so when these situations do occur, take a deep breath and really listen to what the person has to say. Often our minds will try to ignore these comments just so it doesn’t ruin our self-esteem, but it’s important that you ask yourself questions like; What are my strengths and weaknesses? How can I improve my weaknesses? What resources do I need to improve my weaknesses? Getting down to the base of your weaknesses will give you a better understanding of what is holding you back, and from there you are able to find solutions that are effective for you to improve.


3. Seize the opportunity

Any given negative feedback is an opportunity for you to better yourself, so why miss the chance to do so? Set yourself challenges to do better next time. Often when feedback is not given, we continue with bad habits thinking that there’s nothing wrong. It’s only when someone brings it to our attention is when we begin to notice how and why we might not be doing things in the most efficient or effective way. If it’s your time management skills that need to be improved, challenge yourself by setting up SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Time bound) or daily goals. The practice of writing down your goals helps further define on what you want to achieve and also is effective in motivating you to complete the tasks necessary for success.


4. Ask questions

Once you receive this feedback, don’t just stop there. Ask questions to really understand it in as much detail as possible. Not only will this be beneficial when you are searching for solutions but it makes the feedback easier to absorb and process in your mind. You can make effective changes unless you know what really went wrong, right? Asking questions like; How do you think I could do better? Why did you think I need to improve in this area? From here, what does a positive outcome look like? Not only will this demonstrate your determination to improve, but it will also help you make successful modifications.


5. View is as an opportunity to bond with your employer or colleagues

The last thing you want from being confronted with constructive criticism is fearing interaction from the person that gave it to you. Especially when you’re in the workplace, and teamwork is essential for achieving business outcomes. It doesn’t always have to be awkward, upon receiving this feedback you could request having a meeting with your boss once a week to review your progress. Knowing that your employer are supportive of you in achieving your goals will improve the way you perceive them and the relationship overall. Alternatively, you could ask your colleagues for their opinions where they’re able to offer their experiences and suggestions for improvement. Actively speaking about your goals to make changes will create greater collaboration within the workplace.


From uncomfortable situations comes growth, and hearing negative feedback is definitely one of those uncomfortable situations that we don’t like but need. Don’t let it get to the best of you, feedbacks are needed to make the world go around. Be sure to take notes and implement these suggestions when you find yourself in a similar situation. As Tony robbins once said, ‘there’s no such thing as failure, only results’.